The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

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11/17/18

  • Be completely honest with yourself.

  • A rich person doesn't need to keep reminding themselves that they are rich.

  • Giving too many f*cks is bad for your mental health.

  • Be comfortable being different.

  • The avoidance of struggle is to struggle.

  • You are going to die soon.

  • Pick what matters to you based upon personal values. Say f*ck it to everything that doesn't matter to you in life.

  • If you reserve your f*cks for only the things that matter, you'll perform better on what's important.

  • Have meaningful things to give your f*cks about.

  • Maturity is learning to only give a f*ck about what is f*ckworthy.

  • Don't try.

  • You get to choose what to give a f*ck about.

  • There is no value in suffering when it is done without purpose.

  • Happiness occurs when solving problems you enjoy having.

  • Solve problems. Be happy.

  • What pain do you want in your life?

  • Who you are is defined by what you are willing to struggle for.

  • Our struggles determine our success.

  • People that become great at something become great because they understand they are not already great.

  • The vast majority of your life will be average and not noteworthy and that is okay. The pressure to be the next big thing will be lifted off your back.

  • You will have a growing appreciation for life's basic experiences. Basic friendship, creating something, helping a person in need, reading a good book, laughing with someone you care about.

  • It's the ordinary things that actually matter.

  • For what higher purpose are you suffering.

  • Self-awareness is an onion. There are multiple layers and the more you pull back, you will start crying.

  • This is why self-awareness questions are important because they illuminate what we consider success or failure.

  • Honest self-questioning is difficult and requires asking questions that are difficult to answer. The more uncomfortable the answer the more true it is.

  • One day, the years of struggle will strike you as the most precious.

  • Good values are reality based, socially constructive, immediate, and controllable.

  • Bad values are superstitious, socially destructive, not immediate, or controllable.

  • Honesty is a good value, popularity is a bad value.

  • Prioritize better values and things to give a f*ck about.

  • You are 100% responsible for everything in life.

  • We don't always control what happens but we control how we interpret what happens.

  • Chip away at what you are doing wrong today so you can do a little less wrong tomorrow.

  • Happiness comes from caring about something bigger than yourself.

  • Everyone is great already, whether we realize it or not.

  • We are great because we continue to choose what to give a f*ck about.